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Response to Letter to the Editor
Or...Unsympathetic Public School Teacher  
 
From:  RHUSRADS 
I homeschool because of huge disparities in the education received by the children within our school district. School attendance lines are drawn by income level on another pretence of course. I am angry and have a right to be. I am not angry at teachers, nor do I wish to punish them by removing my children from school. I homeschool 3 out of my 5 children because 2 are not old enough yet. I also baby-sit a baby during the day. My schedule is very busy and strictly adhered to in order that my children receive the best education they can get. I do get frustrated sometimes but, the benefits far out weigh the difficulties. These past 2 years have convinced us to homeschool as long as we possibly can, even if our present circumstances change. In order to fight the system, I collect box tops, for the school my children do not attend, so that children and teachers may get free school equipment (equipment my children are not allowed to use), attend the PTA meetings (all of them), baby-sit for said meetings so that all may attend free of charge (by the way 3 teachers attend), bake, set up, and volunteer for everything I possibly can to help improve the situation. I do want to help the children and teachers going to the school. Your teacher is lashing out at the wrong group of people. I do care immensely and am trying to make a difference. It seems we should all join hands to educate all our children, homeschooled or public schooled. Isn't our goal a strong brilliant America?
Concerned Mom of 5
 
From:  KENDERJ 
Ok, this is just a quick thought, and I promise to write more later when I have the time. He said that parents are pulling their children out of schools because of overcrowding. Believe it or not, this is the one reason I have not heard. I ask homeschoolers why they pulled their children and most answers have been, poor teaching, bullying by bigger students, hitting the administrative "brick wall" in regards to your child's needs in school (mine) but not overcrowding. Also, he was talking about chronic under funding of schools and teacher's paychecks. Well, guess what? I don't get paid a cent to educate my child. I don't get funded a penny for purchasing curriculum from year to year. I also have to pay for supplies, activities, and enrichment courses. I not only pay for my Childs entire educational career, but I also, through taxes, help fund the schools in my area that my son has absolutely no access to because of the NEAR stance on homeschooling. Lets have him, and I'll be nice, give up his paycheck for 1 month and yet have to fund all of the necessaries, not even all the schoolbooks, for one student and then let him look down on us. In response to his last line, I would love to save all the children in the country from public schools, the best I can do is help save one at a time through helping others to homeschool, starting with my own.

Kendra

 
From:  JAIDYN1 
I am a public school teacher and a mother of a two and four-year-old. I have heard this teacher's argument before, but I do not share his view point. The small minority of homeschoolers (yes, I know that number has been growing astronomically) cannot make the necessary changes in the public schools no matter how long or loud they yell. Even if they could effect the changes that are so desperately needed, this process would take years to show any changes. I do not feel that any parent should sacrifice their child for the betterment of other people's children. I brought my two children into this world and they are my responsibility. It is up to me to decide how best to raise and educate them. I do not appreciate anyone else telling me what I should be doing for other people's children, and who will be there to comfort me when my child is injured or worse in these violent and unpredictable schools? I will not sacrifice the well being of my own children for others.

Just as a side note: This is my last year teaching in the public schools. My most important challenge will begin this summer when I begin to homeschool my son for Kindergarten. (I don't believe in homeschooling for 4 hours a day, 180 days a year. Homeschooling will be a part of our everyday lives, even if it drives me crazy!)

 
From:  CWITUCKI 
Obviously, the teacher who wrote the letter was frustrated. Many of us get that way in our day to day routines, especially when the things we're frustrated with are beyond our personal control. The letter and many of the replies that followed were a perfect example of the age-old "us vs. them" conflict that arises when two groups who feel strongly about their own view on something collide. I think that what many of us forget at times (myself included), is that the main issue here is our children. I don't know of anyone who doesn't care anything about children who has decided to become a teacher just as I don't know any parent who's incompetent to teach their own child who has made a decision to homeschool. The problem is, both sides feel a bit threatened by the other... PS teachers, after all, went to school and studied to be teachers, so of course when someone who may not have any of the training they've had decides to "do their job" it will feel threatening. Likewise, when parents who homeschool express their reasons (and there are many as we all know) for deciding to homeschool and their frustrations when things beyond their control make their daily life a little hectic, a letter like that that was written by the teacher can raise more than a few hairs. What's the answer? Who knows... my mother used to tell me, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Conflict can only be fed by those who choose to feed it. Maybe instead of adding to our frustrations, we need to try to see the similarities in our situations and sympathize and support each other. You don't have to know or even like someone (although it helps) to give a smile and a helping hand when they need it
 
From:  1STSOPRANO 
I think that I would assure the writer that while he may not be sympathetic to the homeschooler point of view, we are certainly sympathetic to the difficulties that a really dedicated public school teacher can face. Too many times I think public school teachers, already discouraged by the reality of trying to teach in today's environment, see homeschoolers as hostile toward them. I have no hostility toward the many deeply dedicated teachers who are out there trying to make a difference. On the contrary, I feel sad that they have to work under the constraints inherent in the public school system. I do not homeschool because I have a grudge against teachers. I homeschool because I see a failing system that I do not believe all the money in the world will fix. I homeschool because even when I feel overwhelmed by my many roles, I know that my son's student to teacher ratio is still smaller than the public schools can dream of. I homeschool because I believe it is best for my children. Ultimately, I homeschool because that is what I choose to do.
 
From:  JENSMOM24 
1) the gov't already throws too much money at schools and school teachers while each year the problems get worse, the answer is NOT more money - although it is typical of what school teachers say when confronted with the problems - "we're overworked and underpaid" - in PA where we live teachers make more money annually then the average taxpayer providing their salary, they are among the highest paid in the nation, and we don't have any better schools than any other state

2)despite the above, I think a lot of the problem is the kids whose parents don't care - they send junior off to school and expect that the school will teach him and discipline him, then scream bloody murder when the schools try to hold the kid or the parents accountable "what do you mean junior can't play football because he violated the school's drinking policy, boys will be boys" or "but sally has been looking forward to the prom for 3 years, you can't deny her access to the prom just because she'd skipped school every day for the last month" - and rather than fight, most schools cave when threatened with a lawsuit

3)the tolerance of sinful, evil "lifestyle choices" that are actively promoted in public schools under the guise of tolerance while Christian believes are not even accorded equal mention leaves me speechless - TV programs must give equal time to people the least controversial of public campaigns while the faith this country was based on is completely disregarded it's schools

4)you chose to become a school teacher, you get paid to deal with the "stress" - my kids will be staying home but the school will still be getting several hundred dollars each year in my taxes. The way I see it since I'm taking on the responsibility of teaching my children without being paid and still send my tax dollars every year, you have more money per student than you did when my children were part of the system. Let's see what you do with the extra cash.

5)my children are My responsibility - I have an obligation to rear and educate them the best way I know how - which is certainly NOT the public school system. While my heart breaks for children who are left to suffer through the "education" obtained through the public school system - I will not sacrifice my children to it just because others do.

6) I thought teaching was a calling, not something you did to get as much money as possible for as little work as you could get away with. And just for the record, my parents are both teachers and they work their tails off, not that most parents have any appreciation for it; and not that most teachers do a similar level of work - but those I-wanted-summers-off teachers sure do give everybody else a bad image

7) And while we're on the subject -what about all those days off - must be nice to work 180 days out of the year. Did you know most people WORK during the summer?

8) I can't speak for others but I'm homeschooling because I already spend most days after school teaching my kids because the classroom is being run at the speed of the slower kids. I don't think the teacher taught my kids anything all year - I might as well have them home where we can have a schedule more convenient to the family and teach our kids the faith while at the same time protecting them from corrupting influences.

9) As for the form of your letter - as you can tell from mine I'm a lousy typist and when I get worked up my fingers get ahead of me - I'm hoping you have the same problem.

If you really feel as you say you do then maybe you need to look for a new job. You seem very bitter that parents without a degree or "teaching certificate" are doing a better job than you could. And overjoyed that someone had a bad day, of which you evidently have many. Then, too, perhaps during the next contract negotiations in your district you could point some of these things out to your union and give up a percentage or two of salary increase to benefit the children. But I won't hold my breath.

 
From:  KERRIS4 
A public school will never be able to achieve for many homeschoolers the individualized environment in which teaching occurs from the perspective of an individualized set of values and beliefs. There is no way to assume you even know the varied reasons why families choose to homeschool their children.

On the other hand, there is no way the homeschool movement can embrace the entire majority of society with all its diversity and offer the services to those in need of them that a public school system can either.

Both movements, when effectively run, strengthen our society in different ways. Homeschoolers tend to produce bright, successful, self-assured graduates with strong family bonds and a connectedness with their parents' values/goals/ beliefs. This only adds to the diversity our great country needs to keep it strong.Homeschoolers are making our society better!

Public schools and teachers are handed many, many problems and problem-children and dysfunctional families (you know, the kids we homeschoolers won't let our kids play with) and are expected to transform geniuses out of kids who have never been read to, have breathed cigarette smoke all their lives, have been in and out of foster care, have never had enough to eat....I could go on. There are problems, sure, and there are teachers out there who have long since burned out and have now become part of that problem instead of part of the solution....but for most part, given the myriad of issues and problems now facing our complex society and greater expectations we all have for our children, public schools aren't doing a bad job overall.

In conclusion, comparing homeschooling one's own children to the job of teaching at a public school is not an applicable comparison on any level. Except to say that when p.s. teachers do their jobs right and homeschool parents do their jobs right--everyone wins. So we should support each other, not point the finger and criticize!

And anyone who isn't able to face each morning and the tasks at hand (whatever his or her job) with joy, is probably not doing any good for anyone.

 
From:  SMG29  
To Unsympathetic Teachers,
I do not homeschool because for various reasons my husband is not supportive of it. I have seen many a stressed, underpaid teacher. Teachers and schools do deserve more financing, after all it is our for our children's future. Yet as a whole society we are not giving priority to our schools. Many are involved in petty things like busing children from their homes to distant schools. That money would be better spent improving the poorer schools!! We have too few teachers and its a viscous cycle. They are not paid enough, so few want to be a teacher, and those that are teaching become burned out making many consider leaving their careers.

Even though I agree that schools need better care, I feel homeschooling is a great alternative. Many complain about overcrowding now, but just imagine if even half of all homeschooled kids were in public schools. I also prefer homeschooling because parents have a greater authority in what they will teach and what they will not teach their children.

In conclusion, I have great compassion for all teachers, for they have an indescribable burden and responsibility to their pupils.
S. G. in Florida

 
From:  CLAIRER5  
I totally agree with your statement that we should support one another. I have been a teacher and my husband is an assistant principal. I now homeschool my 3 daughters. I'm not disappointed in my school district--I just happen to know that there are opportunities and things I want to provide my children with that the ps will not be able to...due to money, legalities, and rules governing schools.

Mr. Unsympathetic may as well realize that as a teacher, he should know that every student is an individual and there are many ways to meet each students' needs. Public education is not for everyone--just as college may not be for everyone. Homeschooling is a viable and legal option because it works. There are stresses to doing this that I never realized. I experienced the stresses of the classroom and of homeschooling. I would never return to the stresses of the classroom after homeschooling. There is no comparison. The problem is when parents and educators work against one another. Most teachers I know have been very quick to help out other homeschooling parents. Besides, as a taxpayer--it is the districts responsibility to serve special needs kids as well. We can all benefit from working together. I'm amazed at how close-minded this individual is!

Claire

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