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Response to Letter to the Editor
Or...Unsympathetic Public School Teacher  
 
From:  NANABELLE3 
There is nothing discouraging about the post related to over-stressed, hard to balance, taxi driver, etc. that one mom wrote. Isn't that the same problem women/mothers have had for years and years. We grow into women and then mothers and in the process we go through some miraculous change that leads to a well rounded adult who has learned where sometimes (God), family and priorities stand. It is like watching a baby move through the toddler stages, the little child trying time after time to ride the new bike. The best part about the article is that this particular mother (and many other mom's have done before her), have recognized the need to ask for help and feel comfortable in trusting others for sound advice.
Isn't it wonderful that while we are struggling with adult issues of growing in a positive way and maturing naturally, that our children can learn right along with us, and we beside them. Children learn from example. Just as a child would learn at home, so would they learn in public school. Mostly, they would learn that the government runs our public schools and it is out of the hands of God and family. Yes, I agree that we need to stand up for ALL CHILDREN, but what better way to stand up for them then to let the government and our children know that whatever the challenges, the hurdles, the tears, etc. OUR CHILDREN ARE WORTH IT!! We, as homeschoolers, and some who are not....have chosen the difficult and sacrificial way to approach the problems surrounding public schools, just as a public school teacher had the choice to become a teacher knowing all the bosses she would work for and the true element of public school. Life is about CHOICES...I'd rather teach my children at home.....if I'm having a bad day or bad week....there is this unconditional love that bonds my children and me together...and it's the best lesson my kids will ever learn.

Nanabelle3

 
From:  LEAHJORDAN 
Response to D. G.:

Now that I know and understand what teaching is all about, D. G., I cannot possibly imagine that it takes place in public school on a level equivalent to that which occurs at home, one-on-one. I am taxed to conceive of a public school being better able to tailor a learning program specific to each child’s learning style or individual abilities and limitations. It is difficult for me to envision a public school teacher reaching the depth of commitment the parents of home-schooled children accept, revere and nurture as a part of the daily endeavor to educate their own children.

You mention “many people pull their children out of school to home school because of over crowded classrooms and stressed out teachers who cannot give the “individual attention” their child needs.” You are correct. It is a fundamental right and obligation of a parent to choose a course of action for their child, which in their mind is best for the child. Any consideration beyond the immediate impact on their child is purely secondary. As far as your contention that pulling out the child from the untenable situation in the public school exacerbates the problem, you provide no evidence to support that statement. Further, common sense would lead one to believe that reducing the number of children in the classroom would reduce the overcrowding. I would argue that a teacher seeing a child being removed from such a situation and placed in the attention intensive environment of home schooling might feel some sense of relief that one less child has to be subjected to a situation which is so obviously harmful and beyond his or her control; I think this would tend to reduce that teacher’s stress level as well. In fact, taken to its logical conclusion, if a significantly larger segment of the population decided to home educate their children, public school class sizes would decrease.

Therefore, home educators cannot be held responsible for exacerbating the problems of troubled public school systems. We are doing you a favor. That favor is reducing class size while not reducing the funding the systems receive. Oh, that’s right, we are still required to pay our property taxes. Home schoolers don’t get to check off some little box on our itemized property tax exemption form even though we don’t “take advantage” of the recognized disaster we are forced to subsidize. We have no choice but to pay and we have no chance to effect significant change in these systems before our children would no longer be enrolled in them. That leaves few options open for the concerned and proactive parents for whom doing nothing is not an option.

Private schools are an option and the costs can range anywhere $3,000 – 15,000 per year or more. While that is expensive, it’s nowhere near the cost of home schooling. Parents choosing to home school usually choose to forego the earning potential of one of the parents. That income loss could be as much as $30,000 – 40,000 or more, while still being required to pay taxes to support their public school system. Not only do the parents forego the current income, they make future income and career paths much more difficult to create once the child is no longer being home schooled. This indicates an extremely high level of importance being attributed the goal of educating children. Perhaps the value of ensuring these parents’ children receive the “individual attention” they need is not one you share.

Should we take no stand on who or what is responsible for public schools being insufficient to the task of educating our children? If we were not required to pay for it, then we should have nothing to say about it. Of course, we are required to pay for it. Therefore, we have every right to have something to say about it. We do express ourselves to government. More importantly, we put our money where our mouth is. We live by example and our example is to not put up with inadequacy by leaving our children in schools that cannot do the job we think they should. We express the value that our children are more important than an inherently defective educational paradigm.

By expressing our values we are also standing up for all kids. The controversy that the home schooling movement has created has brought with it the acknowledgement that the underlying reasons for it are valid. There is very little public dissent that our children not educated well enough to be effective competitors in the free market of employment they will enter once disgorged from the primary and secondary school systems. Since it will be a free market they will be asked to succeed in, it should be a free market in which they are educated. The employees of the future will still have to compete in order to succeed, so the teachers of these future employees should also have to face competition in order to acquire, maintain and enhance their teaching positions.

Tenure is anathema to the pursuit of excellence. Competition in a free market is the only possible solution to the crisis of complacency in which the school systems are mired. Competition is the natural state of human existence and if it is removed from a mission, the mission will fail. The drive to succeed is not fed by the promise of security. The need to succeed is sustained by the specter of failure. A true sense of accomplishment can only be experienced by those who are personally responsible for it. The need for a true sense of accomplishment is one of the most fundamental needs human beings can hope to provide for themselves. Tenure removes the specter of failure and thereby the need to succeed. Removing the need to succeed removes the aspect of personal responsibility required for a sense of accomplishment. Tenure doesn’t secure a career – it undermines its potential.

I am legally responsible for my children until they reach eighteen years of age. That personal responsibility is a fiduciary. It is not the government’s fiduciary – it’s mine. It’s not the government’s job to raise my kids – it’s mine. If it were the government’s job and responsibility, then you could sue the government when they accidentally damage someone else’s private property. That’s a ridiculous assertion. It makes clear the absolute relationship assumed by responsible parents when deciding to have children.
The fiduciary of my children may hold the need for spiritual values being taught. Luckily, the United States Constitution puts that completely off limits to the government. The right to believe in a Supreme Being is very specifically protected and the ability of the government to influence that belief is very specifically denied. If the spiritual beliefs I have happen to require a belief in right and wrong, then my fiduciary requires that I inform my children of those beliefs. If I believe that sex before marriage is wrong, then the government has no right to inform my children otherwise. The government not only has no responsibility to give my child other options, it has no right. If the government run schools teach concepts at variance with my beliefs, then I have the responsibility – not just the right – to insulate my child from those teachings. Anything less would be an abrogation of my fiduciary responsibility.

Home schooling is a protest, a kind of social disobedience. It’s a protest of the socialist and Marxist ideologies that have invaded our nation’s political fabric. Those ideologies are illustrated by your belief that I should “stand up for all kids.” The village doesn’t stand up for all kids. It stands up for those kids whose parents are outspoken and in positions of authority. Those parents will promote an agenda to have bonds approved for the construction of new schools without addressing the needs of the teachers. This benefits the contractors who build the new facilities and all the subcontractors who perform the work. This benefits local economies in the form of income paid to workers and their increased ability to pay more taxes to fund the bond issues and it provides better window dressing for the municipalities to attract new businesses and their relocated employees, thus increasing the tax base. However, it does virtually nothing to enhance the students’ actual education.

While I have routinely voted against any increases in bond issues for the construction of new schools, I would be eager to vote for a bond to fund doubling teachers’ pay, eliminating tenure, providing for accountability, merit pay and the creation of real competition between schools for students. This would benefit teachers and, most of all, students, but it is not likely to be presented to me as a choice. It doesn’t provide the sort of ancillary economic benefits construction bonds do. Additionally, it would ultimately create such a well educated population that the politicians would be unable to get away with the kind of chicanery they are used to practicing with impunity. It is an appropriate question to ask whether political machines anywhere would welcome an extremely well educated population or if they are content with the general level of ignorance the current system now provides.

The teachers’ unions stand up for teachers with the kind of lobbyists our children ought to have. I thought it was the school board that was supposed to stand up for the kids; that’s what they’re paid for. Locally, a news organization recently discovered that the school board was not screening school bus drivers well enough to prevent two sex offenders and four felons from securing positions driving buses. The Board protested that it was too expensive to obtain $20 background reports on every applicant, a decision that was surely supported by the superintendent whose salary approaches $260,00 per year. Enough money was saved somewhere that they were able to spend almost $1,000 on three sets of color photographs to enshrine the office staff of those three schools on their hallowed halls. Pardon me if I don’t seem over sympathetic, it’s just that I find a certain degree of irony in the situations outlined in my response to your response to the article.

I know there are many talented and committed teachers whose good works and efforts are under appreciated and underpaid. I salute them for being able to hold their noses and their tongues long enough to have as effective a career as the politics in the systems allow. It is not these teachers with whom I have a contention, but the ones who just want to get in their twenty years, get their pension and the students be damned; there are more of the latter than of the former. Qualifications are also important and I hope like Hell that you are not an English teacher, but then you are a product of the current system and I rest my case.
Now that you and others know and hopefully understand what home schoolers are all about, you’ll have an increased appreciation for what I and thousands of other dedicated teachers spend our lives doing.

Thank you,

R. E.

P. S. : Please consider that this is not only an attempt to bring my light out from under the bushel, but an effort to raise a torch as a standard to bear.

 
From:  YOSMITTY 
In response to the unsympathetic PS teacher...
I am not a homeschooling parent. I am the husband of a homeschooling parent. But, I would like to make a first blush response to your letter. The gist of your letter, although valid, actually missed the whole point. The fact that public school teachers are overworked and need compassionate consideration for the miserable job that public school teaching has become is not a point that is lost on the general parental public. I believe we all understand what a difficult, challenging, all too infrequently rewarding job yours is. I have nothing but the highest regard for public school teachers who still take the job seriously and take the beating every day. The point is PUBLIC SCHOOLS NO LONGER WORK AS THEY WERE CREATED. Best illustrated by an analogy: Just as two lane highways worked wonderfully when automobile speeds were 10-30 mph and traffic was light, but the design of highways remained the same as all other elements of the dynamic changed. Traffic became heavy, cars now go 90 mph regularly, and our state highways have become killing grounds with missiles hurtling feet from each other. NO engineer would have designed this system for high speed vehicles. The original design just doesn't apply or work any more. So, we as a society can continue to force our children into a mass for their education as per the original design in America. The problem is you can't educate large groups of children, as they have now evolved in our society, in that setting. When the model was created it was intelligent to take one teacher hour to accomplish 15 or 20 student learning hours, and it worked because the children were respectful, they came from a different type of family life than exists in our culture and, as such, they were manageable. To the extent that they are still manageable as a group, public schools still work. You can evaluate how well they work simply by applying your experience to that function. I am thankful that my wife has the ability to bring our children through these years without the over-riding influence of daily "teaching" by their peers. Regards, Dan Yoder
 
From:  MARYHERE1 
There is a major difference in our stresses with homeschooling and public school teachers' stresses. We can take time out, give our children tasks to do, and complete our work later. In the school system the teachers take out their stresses on our children, and we have no control over them. I pulled my son out of 5th grade, after he had spent most of the year in the hall, office, or in school detention because he was not the teacher's pet, What did he learn in that time?? We cannot control the teacher's stresses, but we can control our own. We know what we teach our children, and what is left to be taught. We can teach mornings, afternoon's, and evenings, around our other schedules. There is no comparison with our stress, and a public school teacher's. There is no comparison with our commitment to our own children, and their commitment to a pay check and retirement plan.

Sincerely,
Mary Parrish

 
From:  ZGENESIS1957 
I understand the frustration and the need to stand up for our public school children, however I won't sacrifice my children for others. That may sound selfish but God gave them to me and I must do the best for them. My children go to speech at their local schools (one elementary and one middle) and I cannot believe the behavior that is tolerated. The disrespect, cursing and other abuses are prevalent. That is the reason I took my children out. Even the best of children will go bad when surrounded by that kind of atmosphere. Not to mention the ME syndrome that is taught in public schools. This spills over into the home and we are left with lazy, rude and rebellious children who think only of themselves. This is not what God intended. Parents need to get a grip on their children before it is too late. The teachers in public school are great. They cannot do it alone. I wasn't unhappy with the education as much as I couldn't tolerate the "values" being instilled in my children. I shudder to think of our "leaders" in a few more years. I am raising my children to make a difference and to be strong in their faith with their lights shining; not hidden under a bushel basket.
 
From:  PRIMARYCHICK   
I am a substitute teacher, and have decided to homeschool my children. I think it is unfair of this Public School teacher to generally scoop all homeschoolers into a huge lump of raging fanatics.

Many of us merely want the flexibility of having our children home. Many of us want to teach what the child is capable of, and not have them held back because that is what the grade limits, or because the rest of the class is having trouble with a concept, Not just because I feel I am a better teacher then any Public School Teacher.

There are those who give Homeschooling a bad name. A lot of people who homeschool are looking for excuses for their children's behavior... But we are not all like that.

When I mention that I am homeschooling my children, people have all sorts of opinions they feel they have to voice. The worst criticism I always receive is from most of the Public School teachers I come in contact with.

Life is synonymous with stress...I don't think that Public School teachers corner the market on it...although they do have a lot of it. Stress is not exclusive to public school system. And I don't feel that when a person makes the decision to Homeschool that they are expecting all daisies and roses. A person should be able to reach out and get some advice how to handle it.

I would think that teachers would be thrilled that parents are taking an active role in their child's education....One less child that the teacher has to divide their time with.
Just my two cents....well, maybe 10 cents.....
PrimaryChick

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