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Response to Letter to the Editor
Or...Unsympathetic Public School Teacher  
 
From:  barefootn  
I can understand both the frustrations of teachers at home and in the classroom. Having worked for a school system and having homeschooled, both occupations have an element of frustration. While working in the school system, I found many good teachers hampered by bureaucracy on one side and parents on the other. As a parent with a child within the school system, I was very concerned with the level of education my child was going to receive within this system. I became disappointed and angry with the failure of this system to adequately educate my child. I became angry with the teacher who didn't have the time to insure that my child grasped the fundamental concepts. However, as an employee, you would not believe how many times I heard these two famous statements: (1) my child would never do that, and (2) I pay your wages and if you don't do what I want you to do, I will have your job. In my honest opinion, until we both, homeschoolers and public school teachers, admit that there are problems on both side of the fence, the open hostility between paid and non-paid teachers is going to exist. Of course, I am talking about self evaluation, it is too easy to point fingers. Of course, ideally all us concerned parents should unite and fight the system and back the really good teachers, but as a parent, I didn't want to take that time away from my child. 

Now, as to the matter of pay!!! It is my feeling that when my sanitation engineer makes more than a teacher, we are placing the education of our children far below where it should be placed. My child is my most prized possession. I don't have all the money that I would like to have to educate her. I can tell you this, I don't have a car worth more than her education. I don't have a credit card to take away from her education. My feeling is that a good teacher, a dedicated teacher is worth more than their weight in gold, because my child deserves the best. With conditions as they exist in the classroom, it is going to take lots of money to entice good teachers to the job. These are people that with advanced math, English, science degrees that can go elsewhere without the headaches and make more money. I have noticed that when parents start to feel the economic pinch, the first things they cut back on is their child's daycare and their child's schooling. What makes a person think just because you take care of children or educate children that that job is reward in its self??? So let us both be tolerant of each other and respect the job that we are both doing. If teachers want our support, then we should be willing to give and help. To tell you the truth, I could teach within the public school system, but the money is not good enough to be placed in a room of kids that act like animals and not be able to discipline (see my above statements no. 1 and no. 2). I don't really expect sympathy from a ps teacher. Teaching is hard work. It is time to get off my soap box and take a nap!!!

Barefootn

 
From:  PRISWELL  
So, as a home school teacher you are feeling stressed. You are having trouble balancing all the daily routines of teacher, mother, taxi driver and wife.

Sure I feel tired. But I have accepted this as part of the deal.

The response of pulling their children out of school is one of the what exacerbates the problem.

Actually, I don't see how. The school will have fewer children to care for, allowing better teaching conditions for the remaining children.

why not raise loud voices to governments who direly underfunded schools, and seriously underpay teachers?

I have heard of many families doing just this. However after months, or perhaps years of "loud voicing", these same families have turned to homeschooling out of desperation to save what they could of their children's future before it was too late. Homeschoolers may not focus on supporting the public schools, but they are still helping to build the community, only they do it one or two or three children at a time. While we wish public schooling parents and their children well, there are times when we have to focus on the needs of our own children first.

you'll have an increased appreciation for what I and thousands of other dedicated teachers spend our lives doing."

Despite the fact that we homeschool, we DO appreciate dedicated teachers. However, homeschoolers have a place in the community as well, and we feel as if we deserve reciprocal respect.

Priswell,

 
From:  sroutlaw  
My response is this: He gets PAID to have the grief; we PAY for his stress. My stress is not paid for, nor is it supported by OTHER teachers-because the NEA and homeschool moms hold the SAME job title (hmm, wonder why they aren't unionizing us haha!). His job is "respected" by society with constant talk of raising pay and "dedication" whereas homeschool moms are STILL seen as weird, out of the loop, left wing or right wing wackos, take your pick...

Essentially, this man is a misguided person who believes his own press-the NEA has truly convinced many teachers that only "they" can do the job and complain about it. The rest of us, even though our students by and large do MUCH better academically, socially and in later life, we are just so much "unpaid unprofessional renegade slush".

Do I sound like I have a bad attitude LOL?

It is really sad that this guy even BOTHERED TO READ a homeschool article, since he is so clearly against the whole choice. I say, he is sewing exactly what he reaps as a public school teacher. He will be eaten by his own demons.

Stephanie

 
From:  LDHSMOM  
It seems this teacher may have missed step one. That is, to understand the principles we are guided by. Parents choose to homeschool for a variety of reasons -  to remove our children from dangerous associations and peer pressure during critical times, to give individual attention, to instill Christian principles into the general curriculum, and to allow emotionally troubled youngsters time to heal and rejuvenate are among the catalysts for our decisions. These are things that cannot be addressed in any funding level!
It is true that classrooms are overcrowded and that our nations teachers are severely underpaid. Usually, teachers are not given a dynamic curriculum to follow, and are not given the funds for classroom learning aids and tools. Homeschool parents are very aware of this. It is also true that many of us have tried, and continue to try, to lobby for change. However, as loving parents we cannot, and will not, allow our own children to suffer in the mean time. My son has a significant learning disability. His teacher was so swamped that she allowed his classmates to do his worksheets for him. His learning support teacher seemed unqualified, as per her technique. We had no choice. Not that I feel the need to apologize for our decision.

Rather than berate us for being involved parents, the teacher should see us as allies. hHwever unusual it may seem, perhaps an alliance between the homeschoolers and disgruntled teachers is in order!!

 
From:  LMDL 
I HOMESCHOOL my son because the school system is THE GOVERNMENT. They did not care to teach my child and when I went to show how he regressed from when switched from Parochial to Public school I WAS SENT TO THE PRINCIPALS OFFICE. Why because I was a Concerned Parent and I AM DOING A BETTER JOB THAN THE PUBLIC SCHOOL TEACHERS DID WHO TOLD ME TO MEDICATE HIM BECAUSE HE HAS ADD. Since when is a Public School teacher a DR. of Medicine???? My child does not have ADD, he has perceptual vision dysfunction and other learning disabilities. Homeschooling gives my child A LIFE and not more stress. He GETS AN EDUCATION AND THERAPY AND CAN ENJOY THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE. IF IN SCHOOL IT IS SCHOOL, THERAPY, HOMEWORK AND BED - NO FAMILY TIME, NO TIME FOR FRIENDS AND THE TEACHERS DON'T GIVE A ------------. At this time I have no respect for teachers.

Lynda

 
From:  TNEILL1  
"Well, where do I start". This was my first response to this unsympathetic teacher. First the letter made me angry and I wondered if this teacher was a parent. Then I decided it didn't matter. She is assuming that we all take our kids out of school because they don't get the attention we feel they need. Wrong. She is assuming that it is because they are stressed out because the size of classes they deal with. I know there are many reasons parents are taking their kids out but, I would be willing to say that these reasons are at the bottom of the list. I have personally felt for years (even before I had kids) that our society is backwards. Doctors should be paid less. Which means the occupation would attract people who really care about helping others. And that teachers should be paid not a ton but, more then they are. This person is also assuming that we didn't know what it feels to be a teacher and how hard the job is until we started homeschooling! We are teachers from the time our kids are out of the womb! Homeschooling is just being a teacher 8 more hours of the day then many of us originally planned! And I might as well throw this in. My 9 year old asked me to homeschool. And I didn't want to at first. Do you think the teachers know this? Kids are asking to be homeschooled. And my daughter did well and was well liked, very outgoing in school.

My reasons for homeschooling are very simple. When I was in school (not very long ago I'm 33) no one carried guns to school and shot people because they were teased! Kids today are very angry, why? It's simple, they have had someone else, thanks to womens lib. raising them! I don't believe this should be. And they are angry because they (as a whole) are getting the short end of the stick in the name of materialism! I would love to own a home or drive a great car, shop at somewhere else other then Walmart or thrift stores for my clothes. Priorities! (I know there are some that have to have both parents work.) Another reason is there are some things in public school that my kids would not be getting. As well as a lot of things they are sure to get that a lot of us don't want for our kids. Instead they will get bits and pieces of information over and over just like I did. Did you know textbooks were born because in the late 1800's the people in charge thought poor children could not understand real books (whole, good literature) so they dumbed them down and now we have the textbook that gets more dumbed down all the time. Out with the classics and three R's and in with the trash! This is my very strong opinion for this unsympathetic teacher. And yes I could fight the government. I am fighting the government! But, we all know how that goes and my kids would be out of school by the time anything could be done for them. This option is open to me and my family and I intend to make the best of it with God leading the way. God bless all the hard working teachers both at home and in the school systems!

Thanks
Tessa Neill

 
From:  REMINGTON200   
I have 2 children and they were in public school. When I had a problem with the teacher I took it to the principal. He only made it more rough on my son and myself. When I tried to get another meeting with teacher and principal he was willing with a attitude. My son was the one who was suffering. No one was helping him. Matter of fact he was on the verge of a nervous break down through it all. I was at the school about every day after school. Nothing helped. My son counted too. I took him out of school with my daughter and they are so different. It's not that I wouldn't want to help another child. I would. My heart goes out to children. I quit my job to homeschool my children. Not everyone can do that, I realize, but our children are very important to us. Someday I will go back to work, but now I have a full time job at home. My children appreciate it because we have fun learning together. My son is more outgoing and can relate with other kids his own age better now. He is in the boy scouts and my daughter is in dance class. The Lord had really blessed.

Sue

 
From:  STRAIN3   
It sounds like another teacher mainly blaming poor quality in public schools on the government. My experience with public school with three of my children was the majority of the teachers didn't care, to them it was just a job and one that they always complained they never got paid enough. Well I had enough and have been homeschooling my youngest daughter since. In my experience since homeschooling, the main problem in p.s. is not the government, it is the absence of God, our creator. When children don't grow up learning as much about God as they do std's in public school then you are going to have young adults who aren't ready to take on the world and all of its darkness. My daughter went from a C and D student to A's and B's after the first year of homeschooling. Too many teachers are in the profession for the money and prestige, but that isn't what teaching is all about. We, every single one of us are teachers. Most of us don't get a paycheck for it, but knowing that my child can read and learn anything she decides to tackle is worth more than dollars. Thanks!
 
From:  CUTEY16 
This is to the teacher who felt it was necessary to respond in the manner that you did.  It sounds like you have some underlying animosity toward homeschool parents.  No one said that your job was any less than it is.  This is a board for homeschool parents to share stress and concerns.  Your job is very admirable also.  The one easy thing about your job is that it's from, roughly, 9 to 5.  Homeschool is 24/7.  You rarely get a break.  If support is what you need, why don't you try asking for it.  I hope that you don't take out your stress on your students the way you did on homeschool parents.  I hope you have a peaceful life.
 
From:  MOM4HIM 
After reading you e-mail, I find we have more in common than you originally thought. You see my homeschool is grossly underfunded by the government, and I am also paid less than desirable wages!! Keep up the good work.

Your sister in the trenches!

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